3 Lessons that I learned about Natural Hair

Going natural can be very scary.  You wonder “Will my hair be unmanageable?”  “Will I know how to take care of it?”  If you have ever found yourself saying “Natural hair is not for me, I don’t have “good” hair like so and so,” then you are exactly who I am talking to.  I have said and thought all of those things but here I am 6.5 years natural and I feel like I could never go back to the creamy crack.

I started my natural journey on accident but during this journey I have discovered that our hair in it’s natural state is exactly what God gave us.  When we take time out to take care of our hair we will see the beauty that we are blessed with.


Here are the 3 things that I learned in the last 6.5 years.


Natural hair is like learning a new craft.

Every craft takes hours upon hours of practice to really get the hang of it.  It has taken me 6 years of buns and ponytails before I took down my bun and took the time to discover what my hair likes and needs.  You will have to try different shampoos, conditioners, leave in conditioners, oils, deep conditioners, drying processes and styles before you get in the groove.  Thank God for Youtube and the Natural Hair Divas who have taught me many things.  I still have a ways to go but I can say with much honesty that I finally understand the blessing of natural hair.  I finally understand the beauty of my curls, coils and naps.


Take Time to Learn and Love your Hair

I wasted a lot of time comparing my hair to other people’s hair.  I spent way too many hours wishing my hair was more “wash n go.”  Wishing my hair was 3C, low porosity and shiny, and bouncy with no frizz.  Im just being real when I say that I thought I had “bad” hair.  I had many people who would tell me the opposite but I was convinced otherwise.  When you are programmed to think that the curly new growth is nappy you fear that your hair will just be nappy.  Once you get those dead over-processed ends cut off you can really start to deprogram your brain from all that you have been taught.  The self hatred that has been passed from person to person for generations.  The truth is that God made no mistakes.  Even though ethnic hair can be a lot of work, it is beautiful, and with time can be less work.


Wash and Condition OFTEN

I had learned to fear water.  Water made your hair nappy right?  WRONG!!!  Our hair is like our bodies.  It needs water, it loves water.  Unless you are wearing your hair blow dried and or flat ironed most of us can benefit from wetting our hair daily.  I was also scared of shampoo.  For years I co-washed only.  The product build up made my hair constantly dull and my curls were frizzy.  I now realize that there is a balance.  Everyone’s hair is different but for my hair personally I try to wet it daily, wash once or twice per week and deep condition once per week.  The change that I have seen in my hair has been amazing.  I went from hating my hair to loving it.  When my hair is clean, moisturized and balanced it isn’t frizzy, the curls are defined, shiny, and bouncy.


I really hope that I can encourage someone out there who is on the fence about whether they should stop getting relaxers or not.  Im not saying that there is anything wrong with getting relaxer if that is your personal decision.  I am saying that there is a real freedom and beauty in learning to love your hair in its natural state.  There is a flexibility in being able to wear your hair curly or straight.  Don’t let fear stop you!


2 Replies to “3 Lessons that I learned about Natural Hair”

  1. I’ve been back natural since 2011 and is STILL learning my hair. I tend to always wear braids so don’t have to ‘deal’ with it as much but I have found that I need to wear it out more and learn what my hair like and dislikes. Your hair is beautiful!

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